When Can Relatives Kiss a Baby?

It's generally recommended to avoid kissing babies under three months old. This is because young babies have underdeveloped immune systems and are vulnerable to infections easily transmitted through saliva, such as RSV.

Babies under three months are particularly susceptible to viruses and infections that can be passed through close contact, including kissing, cuddling, and holding. The risk is significant enough that experts advise against allowing such contact during this vulnerable period. [Source: Experts advise shielding babies under three months from dangerous viruses and infections, most easily passed through kissing, cuddling and holding them. (11-Jul-2023)]

When Kissing Might Be Acceptable

While the recommendation for babies under three months is to avoid kissing, the acceptable age for relatives to kiss a baby beyond that age is a matter of parental discretion and depends on several factors:

• The baby's health: If the baby has any underlying health conditions that compromise their immune system, it's wise to exercise extra caution and delay kissing until the baby is older and healthier.
• The relative's health: Relatives with cold sores (herpes simplex virus), colds, or other contagious illnesses should absolutely avoid kissing the baby, regardless of age. Even if they haven't had symptoms recently, latent viruses can still be transmitted. [Source: Mum asked me today when it would be okay for her to start kissing baby (feet & top of head). She does get cold sores but hasn't had one for many years. (Jun 29, 2023)]
• Parental comfort level: Ultimately, the parents have the right to decide who kisses their baby and when. It's perfectly acceptable to set boundaries and politely request that visitors refrain from kissing the baby, especially during the first few months of life. [Source: Just opening this up for discussion How do you feel about people kissing your baby? If you don't like it, how do you… (Jan 20, 2023)]

Some parents choose to wait until the baby is older and can express their own preferences regarding physical contact.

Alternatives to Kissing

There are many ways to show affection to a baby without kissing:

• Gentle hugs: These provide a warm and loving embrace without direct contact with the face.
• Soft touches: Caressing the baby's arms, legs, or back can be comforting and affectionate.
• Verbal affection: Telling the baby they are loved can be just as meaningful as physical contact.

Remember, the goal is to protect the baby's health and well-being while still allowing loved ones to express their affection.