The "traffic light system" related to toddlers refers to a framework, often called Traffic Lights®, used by adults to understand and respond to children's sexual behaviours in a way that supports healthy development and protects them from harm. It categorizes these behaviours using the colors green, orange, and red.
Here's a breakdown:
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Green Light Behaviors: These are age-appropriate, curious, and harmless sexual behaviours. Examples might include:
- Simple curiosity about bodies (own or others).
- Playing doctor.
- Age-appropriate exploration of their own bodies.
- Understanding appropriate terminology for body parts.
Responding to green light behaviours involves:
- Providing factual, age-appropriate information.
- Creating an open and honest environment for questions.
- Normalizing healthy curiosity.
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Orange Light Behaviors: These are behaviors that may be concerning, potentially harmful, or inappropriate given the child's age or context. Examples might include:
- Repeated or obsessive sexual behaviours.
- Sexualized play that goes beyond simple curiosity.
- Showing an unusual interest in sexual topics or activities.
- Difficulty understanding personal boundaries.
Responding to orange light behaviours involves:
- Direct and clear communication about boundaries and appropriate behavior.
- Further investigation to understand the underlying cause of the behaviour.
- Teaching about consent and respect.
- Seeking professional guidance if necessary.
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Red Light Behaviors: These are behaviours that are harmful, abusive, or illegal. Examples might include:
- Sexual activity with another child or adult.
- Aggressive or coercive sexual behavior.
- Showing knowledge of sexual acts that are beyond their developmental stage.
- Displaying sexually harmful behaviours towards themselves or others.
Responding to red light behaviors involves:
- Immediately stopping the behaviour.
- Ensuring the safety of the child and any potential victims.
- Reporting the behaviour to the appropriate authorities (e.g., child protective services, police).
- Providing therapeutic support for the child.
The Traffic Lights® system serves as a valuable tool for parents, educators, and caregivers to navigate the complexities of childhood sexuality, promote healthy sexual development, and ensure the safety and well-being of children. It offers a structured approach to identify, understand, and address various sexual behaviours in age-appropriate ways, emphasizing safety and protection.
