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How Do I Make Distance From My Best Friend?

Published in Friendship Distance 2 mins read

To make distance from your best friend, focus on reducing interaction frequency, adjusting communication style, and shifting your social attention to others.

Based on provided guidance, here are practical steps you can take:

Strategies for Creating Distance

Building distance in a relationship often involves subtle shifts in behavior rather than direct confrontation. These methods allow for a gradual change in dynamics.

Reduce Interaction Frequency

A key way to create distance is by simply seeing and talking to your friend less often. This naturally lessens the intensity and frequency of your connection.

  • Stop making plans: Intentionally avoid initiating hangouts or arranging activities together.
  • Cut down on face time: By not making plans, you reduce the opportunities for in-person meetings.
  • Avoid initiating conversations: Limit starting text messages, calls, or online chats. Allow communication to happen only when necessary or when the other person initiates, but respond minimally (as per the next point).

Reference Note: "Stop making plans to cut down on face time with your friend. Also, avoid initiating conversations to naturally grow the distance between you."

Adjust Communication Style

When you do interact, changing the tone and depth of your conversations can help create distance.

  • Keep conversations polite but formal: Avoid deep personal sharing, inside jokes, or overly casual banter that signifies closeness. Maintain a courteous but somewhat detached manner. This signals a shift away from the intimate nature of a best friendship.

Reference Note: "Keep the conversations you do have polite but formal."

Shift Your Social Focus

Redirecting your social energy towards other relationships helps to fill the void left by reducing time with your best friend and reinforces your move towards distance.

  • Pay more attention to your other friends: Spend more time and energy engaging with your existing friends.
  • Make new friends: Actively seek out new social connections and invest time in developing those relationships.

Reference Note: "Pay more attention to your other friends, or to making new friends."

Summary of Actions

These actions work together to gradually lessen the bond.

Strategy Key Actions
Reduce Contact Avoid making plans, Stop initiating conversations
Change Tone Be polite but formal in interactions
Broaden Social Circle Focus on other friends and make new ones

By consistently applying these steps, you can effectively create distance in your relationship with your best friend.