What you say when a girl gets her first period depends on your relationship with her (mother, father, sibling, friend, etc.) and her personality. However, a supportive and reassuring response is always appropriate. Here are some suggestions, categorized for different situations:
If you are the girl's mother or primary caregiver:
- Start with reassurance: "Oh honey, I see you've started your period. That's perfectly normal, and it means your body is growing up."
- Offer comfort and practical help: "Are you feeling okay? Do you need help figuring out what to do? I have pads/tampons here."
- Share your own experience (if appropriate and comfortable): "I remember when I got my first period. It can feel a little scary, but it's a normal part of being a woman."
- Open the door for future conversations: "We can talk about this as much or as little as you like. I'm here for you if you have any questions or need anything."
- Focus on the positive: "This is a big step, and it means you're growing into a young woman. It's something to be proud of."
If you are the girl's father or male guardian:
- Acknowledge the situation and defer to the mother or a trusted female relative/friend (if comfortable): "I understand you've started your period. Your mom/aunt/sister is the best person to talk to about this, and she can help you with what you need." (And then follow through with making sure she does have someone to talk to).
- Offer general support and assurance: "That's a normal part of growing up, and you don't need to feel embarrassed. Is there anything I can do to help?"
- Ensure access to resources: "Let me know if you need anything - pads, tampons, pain relievers - and I'll make sure you have them."
If you are the girl's sister or female friend:
- Offer immediate support and empathy: "Oh my gosh, you got your period! How are you feeling? Do you need anything?"
- Share experiences and advice (if she's open to it): "I remember when I got mine...it was [share a brief, relatable anecdote]. Here's what I usually do..."
- Offer practical assistance: "Do you have pads or tampons? I can run to the store if you need me to."
- Reassure her that it's normal: "It's totally normal, and every girl goes through it. Don't feel weird or embarrassed!"
General Tips (applicable to everyone):
- Be calm and reassuring: Your reaction will set the tone for her experience.
- Respect her privacy: Don't announce it to the world.
- Be prepared to answer questions: She may have questions about periods, hygiene, or other related topics. Be honest and informative, or direct her to a trusted source.
- Listen more than you talk: Let her guide the conversation and express her feelings.
- Avoid making jokes or being dismissive: This is a significant milestone for her.
- Offer practical help without being intrusive: Ask if she needs anything, but respect her wishes if she declines.
Essentially, the core message should always be one of support, normalcy, and open communication. It’s a time to offer comfort and information, helping her navigate this new stage in her life with confidence and understanding.
