Closing a wedding ceremony is a pivotal moment that culminates the declaration of love and commitment, typically involving a series of traditional and personalized elements led by the officiant.
Key Elements of a Wedding Ceremony Closing
A wedding ceremony concludes with a sequence of significant actions and words that affirm the union and present the newlyweds to their guests. These elements ensure a smooth and memorable transition from the formal ceremony to the celebratory reception.
The Officiant's Closing Remarks
The officiant delivers the final words of wisdom, blessing, and advice to the couple. These remarks often summarize the essence of marriage and offer guidance for the couple's journey ahead. For instance, a common closing sentiment includes:
- In closing: Groom and Bride as the two of you have joined this marriage uniting as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another, and that you support each other through all of life's joys and challenges. These words emphasize mutual respect, cherishing individuality, and unwavering support, setting a foundational tone for their life together.
- A final blessing or prayer may also be offered, wishing the couple happiness, prosperity, and enduring love.
The Pronouncement
Following the closing remarks, the officiant officially declares the couple married. This is a powerful and legally binding moment, often stated with a phrase like, "By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife," or "It is with great joy that I pronounce you united in marriage."
The Kiss
The pronouncement is traditionally followed by the declaration, "You may kiss the bride/partner." This is often the first public display of affection as a married couple, a cherished and symbolic moment that often elicits cheers from the guests.
Presentation of the Newlyweds
After the kiss, the officiant formally presents the couple to their guests as a married pair. This is usually done by announcing their new shared name (e.g., "It is my honor to present to you, Mr. and Mrs. Smith," or "I present to you, the newly married couple, Alex and Jamie!") This announcement invites guests to applaud and celebrate the union.
The Recessional
The ceremony formally ends with the recessional, where the newly married couple, followed by the wedding party and sometimes the parents, exits the ceremony location. This walk signifies their first journey together as a married couple and often happens to uplifting music.
Crafting Meaningful Closing Remarks
For officiants, the closing remarks are an opportunity to add a personal touch and lasting impression.
Consider these elements:
- Personalization: Include anecdotes or specific wishes that reflect the couple's unique relationship.
- Words of Wisdom: Offer practical advice for a strong and lasting marriage.
- Blessing: Conclude with a heartfelt blessing for their future.
- Gratitude: Thank guests for attending and supporting the couple.
Checklist for a Smooth Ceremony Close
| Element | Description | Timing (Approx.) |
|---|---|---|
| Officiant's Remarks | Final advice, well wishes, and blessings for the couple. | 1-2 minutes |
| Pronouncement | Official declaration of marriage by the officiant. | 15-30 seconds |
| The Kiss | The couple's first kiss as married partners. | 15-30 seconds |
| Presentation | Officiant introduces the newly married couple to the guests. | 15-30 seconds |
| Recessional Music Cue | Signal for the musicians to begin playing the exit music. | Immediate |
| Couple's Exit | The newlyweds walk down the aisle, often to applause and cheers. | 1-2 minutes |
| Wedding Party Exit | Bridesmaids, groomsmen, and other participants follow the couple. | 2-3 minutes |
| Guest Dismissal | Officiant or coordinator guides guests on next steps (e.g., cocktail hour). | 1 minute |
Practical Tips for a Memorable Exit
- Music Choice: Select an upbeat and celebratory song that reflects the couple's personality for the recessional.
- Exit Toss: Consider organized elements like confetti, bubbles, flower petals, or ribbons for guests to toss as the couple exits. Always check venue rules first.
- Photography: Ensure your photographer is ready to capture the recessional, as these spontaneous joyful moments are often some of the most cherished.
- Post-Ceremony Plan: Clearly communicate to guests what happens next, whether it's a cocktail hour, transport to another venue, or photo opportunities.
